The Great Reclamation of Power: Masculine & Feminine Energy Ignited

Listen to an expanded conversation between Bart and Sunny around this newsletter:

Bart hosted a roundtable at Funnel Hacking Live in Las Vegas last week, fully expecting to talk about business, style, and the alter ego effect. Imagine his surprise when all the questions seemed to center in relationships, energy, and more specifically on masculine and feminine energy.

Since there are so many questions swirling around the ideas of masculine and feminine energy, what it means, and why it is so important, we decided to answer the call and take a deep dive into this fun and intriguing topic!

Feminine Energy: “I am the Storm”

One particular idea we hear from women who are hesitant about stepping into their feminine energy is this: “But, isn’t feminine energy weak?” “I don’t feel empowered by the thought of feminine energy.” “I have always been taught that women who use their looks instead of their skills to get ahead in life are of no value…” We were on a podcast just yesterday (more to come on that - we had an amazing conversation) where the question was asked, “Don’t you think it is harder for women to be successful in business than men?”

If you look at feminine energy this way, it’s understandable. Our society has been driven by strong, results-driven men who are bold, aggressive, and sometimes intimidating. Woman have been taught from a young age to be “sweet,” people pleasers, that looks are our only value, and/or that we aren’t as physically strong, so we are the weaker sex of the two.

We are firm believers that all answers can be found in nature, so let’s take a look at Mother Nature herself: the ultimate feminine energy. The same energy that grows lush forests and intricate flowers and nurtures all living creatures on the Earth can also bring hurricanes, earthquakes and wildfires. Feminine energy is a force that creates and destroys worlds. It’s like a storm - powerful, overwhelming, and has the ability to reshape and transform everything in its path. It’s unstoppable, expansive, and magnetic rather than passive or fragile. It has the power to move, to transform, to invite, as well as to nurture and love. A fully embodied woman is magnetic - she is the ocean, the storm, the sunrise.

So, if you have a dominant feminine energy profile, how can you step more fully into this power?

ACTION STEPS:

1️⃣ Embrace Your Presence—Stop Rushing, Start Commanding
Feminine energy is magnetic, not forceful. Instead of constantly chasing, slow down and allow yourself to attract.

🔥 Action Step: The next time you enter a room, pause before speaking. Take a deep breath, soften your gaze, and let your presence be felt before you even say a word. People respond to energy before words.

2️⃣ Own Your Expression—Speak with Emotion, Not Just Logic
Masculine energy focuses on facts and structure; feminine energy moves people through emotion, storytelling, and connection.

🔥 Action Step: When sharing an idea, instead of listing facts, paint a picture with your words. Use sensory language, tell a story, and invite people into an experience rather than just giving them information.

3️⃣ Develop Deep Intuition—Trust Your Gut Without Needing Permission
Feminine energy is deeply intuitive, but many women have been conditioned to doubt their instincts. And for those of you wondering or saying you aren’t intuitive - you are. You are born with intuition as an inherent trait - you can’t not have it. It may be weak, but it’s there. The way to develop your intuition is to listen and follow it. The more you do, the stronger it will become.

🔥 Action Step: The next time you feel a gut instinct about a decision, act on it without over-explaining or seeking validation. Let your intuition guide you, even in small ways—whether it’s a business move, a relationship dynamic, or simply sensing someone’s energy.

4️⃣ Drop the Over-Giving & Learn to Receive Fully
Many women are conditioned to give, give, give—but true feminine power receives as effortlessly as it gives.

🔥 Action Step: The next time someone gives you a compliment, instead of downplaying it, pause, smile, and simply say “Thank you.” No justifications. No “Oh, this old thing?” Own it.

5️⃣ Move Your Body with Intention—Cultivate Flow & Sensuality
Feminine energy lives in the body—it is movement, rhythm, and expression. The more connected you are to your body, the more alive and powerful you feel.

🔥 Action Step: Each morning, take two minutes to move your body in a way that feels good. This could be dancing, stretching, rolling your shoulders, or swaying your hips. The key? Feel into it, don’t just “do” it.

6️⃣ Set Boundaries Like a Queen—No More Apologizing for Taking Up Space
Feminine energy is not passive—it is powerful, clear, and unwavering when needed.

🔥 Action Step: The next time you feel compelled to say “yes” to something you don’t want, pause and say, “Let me get back to you.” This gives you space to decide instead of reacting.

7️⃣ Step into Your Magnetism—Lead with Your Energy, Not Just Your Actions
Masculine energy pushes; feminine energy pulls. The most powerful women don’t chase—they draw people in.

🔥 Action Step: Before an important conversation, sales call, or even a date, spend two minutes focusing on how you want to feel. Confident? Grounded? Radiant? Embody that energy before you enter the room, and watch how people respond differently.

8️⃣ Awaken Your Sensual & Sexual Energy—Own Your Full Expression

Feminine energy is deeply sensual, but that doesn’t just mean sexuality—it means being fully present in your body and experiencing life through your senses.

• Sensual energy is power. A woman who is in tune with her body is magnetic, because she carries an effortless confidence that draws people in.

• Sexual energy is creation energy. It’s the same force that gives birth to life—it’s a source of power, passion, and radiance.

🔥 Action Step: Start by activating your senses daily—engage in pleasure without purpose.

• Wear soft fabrics that feel luxurious against your skin.

• Light a candle, breathe deeply, and savor the scent.

• Eat your favorite food slowly, taking in every texture and flavor.

• Move your body intentionally and sensually—dance, stretch, sway your hips, feel the energy shift.

🔥 Action Step: Embrace your sexual energy as a source of confidence.

• Before a big event, sales call, or date, spend five minutes activating your body—this could be through movement, breathwork, or simply putting on music that makes you feel alive.

• Instead of hiding your sensuality, own it. When you feel comfortable in your skin, you radiate power without trying.

💡 Remember: Sensuality isn’t about being for anyone else—it’s about feeling alive, embodied, and powerful for yourself. When you own your energy fully, the world can’t help but respond.

Reclaiming Feminine Energy is Reclaiming Power

Feminine energy is not weak—it is the energy that moves mountains, builds empires, and transforms lives. It is intuitive, magnetic, and unstoppable. When you fully step into it, you don’t have to force your way forward—you become the woman who naturally attracts everything she desires.

Masculine Energy: “I am the Mountain”

If feminine energy is like the storm—wild, powerful, ever-moving—masculine energy is the mountain.

The mountain doesn’t chase, it stands firm. It doesn’t waver in the wind, it anchors the earth. It provides stability, protection, and presence—a force that can’t be ignored. It’s raw power expressed through decisive action. When he speaks he commands attention, not by being loud, but by the certainty in his energy. When a man walks into a room fully in his masculine energy he immediately brings a sense of authority and calm. He leads with that certainty, not arrogance. He takes responsibility for his actions and his results. He makes those around him feel safe, seen, and supported. He operates with purpose, strength, and presence. A dominant masculine man is not just a leader - he is an anchor. The world feels different when he enters the room.

But what happens when a man loses touch with his masculine energy? He becomes like a crumbling peak, eroded over time. He doubts his decisions, hesitates in his actions, and drifts instead of leading. Instead of being the rock, he becomes the dust.

And here’s the truth: The world does not respect a man who has lost his mountain. Not because he isn’t worthy—but because his energy no longer demands it.

Reclaiming your masculine power isn’t about being aggressive, emotionless, or controlling. It’s about becoming unshakable. It’s about standing firm in who you are, leading with clarity, and embodying the kind of presence that makes people feel safer just by being around you.

So, how do you reclaim your masculine energy?

ACTION STEPS:

1️⃣ Stop Seeking Permission—Decide & Move
A weak man waits. He waits for the perfect moment, the perfect plan, the perfect validation. A strong man decides.

🔥 Action Step: Pick one decision you’ve been overthinking—big or small—and make the call TODAY. No second-guessing. No asking ten people for their opinion. Decide, act, and stand by it.

2️⃣ Rebuild Your Body, Rebuild Your Energy
Masculine energy thrives in physical exertion and challenge. If you’re physically weak, your mind will follow.

🔥 Action Step: Push your body every single day—whether it’s lifting heavy, running hard, or simply taking cold showers to train mental resilience. Build strength and discipline, and your confidence will follow.

3️⃣ Master Your Presence—Be Still & Command Respect
Feminine energy moves and flows; masculine energy is still, grounded, and unshakable. When you’re always fidgeting, over-explaining, or nervously filling silence, you leak power.

🔥 Action Step: Next time you’re in a conversation, pause before responding. Hold eye contact. Let silence build tension. The man who is comfortable in stillness owns the room.

4️⃣ Own Your Word—Do What You Say You’ll Do
Nothing kills masculine energy faster than being flaky, unreliable, or inconsistent. If your word means nothing, neither do you.

🔥 Action Step: Pick one area where you’ve been undisciplined—your fitness, business, relationships. Make a commitment and follow through relentlessly. No excuses, no half-measures.

5️⃣ Lead, Even When It’s Hard
A man in his masculine doesn’t sit back and hope someone else will take the lead. He steps up—even when he’s uncertain.

🔥 Action Step: Next time a decision needs to be made—at work, in a relationship, or in a social setting—be the one to take the lead. It doesn’t have to be perfect, but own the moment and make the call.

6️⃣ Cultivate Emotional Control—Stop Reacting Like a Boy
Masculine energy isn’t about suppressing emotions, but about mastering them. A weak man reacts emotionally to everything—anger, fear, insecurity. A strong man feels deeply but chooses his response.

🔥 Action Step: When triggered, pause. Instead of reacting, breathe deeply, assess the situation, and choose your response deliberately. Every time you do this, you become more unshakable.

7️⃣ Claim Your Space—Physically & Energetically
Masculine energy is expansive—it claims space, both physically and energetically. If you shrink yourself, apologize constantly, or hesitate to take up room, you weaken your presence.

🔥 Action Step: Walk into a room like you belong there. Stand taller. Take up space. Stop saying “sorry” for things you don’t need to apologize for.

8️⃣ Step Into Your Sexual Energy—Own Your Desire Without Shame
A powerful man isn’t ashamed of his sexuality, his passion, or his presence. He channels his sexual energy into his work, his purpose, and his presence. He does not repress it, overindulge in it, or let it control him. He directs it.

🔥 Action Step: Next time you feel sexual energy building, instead of numbing it (porn, mindless distractions), channel it into your power. Use it to fuel your workouts, your work, your leadership. Harness it, don’t waste it.

Final Thought: The Mountain Rises Again

Masculine energy isn’t something you’re born with or without. It’s something you build.

It is a fire that needs tending, a mountain that needs rebuilding, a presence that must be cultivated.

If you feel weak, you can reclaim your power.
If you feel lost, you can reclaim your direction.
If you feel unsteady, you can reclaim your foundation.

The world respects a man who is grounded, unshakable, and fully in his masculine energy. Not because he demands it, but because he embodies it.

Partnership: The Magic is In the Polarity 🌟

Just like a battery needs both positive and negative charges to generate power, an intimate relationship thrives on opposite yet complementary energies. The more grounded and present the masculine is, the more he can hold space for the feminine to fully express herself. Likewise, the more radiant and open the feminine energy is, the more the masculine feels driven to protect, lead, and provide. This interplay creates magnetic attraction—not through force, but through natural polarity.

On the podcast we were on yesterday, Bart shared an insightful analogy about how he sees Sunny’s feminine energy. Returning to the storm metaphor, he described it like this: Sunny brings the storm—wild, powerful, and electric—while he acts as the conduit that directs its energy outward. He doesn’t try to control it; he channels it.

Another way to think of it:

Imagine a river carving through a mountain range—the water (feminine) is fluid, adaptable, and powerful, yet it needs the mountain’s structure (masculine) to give it direction. Without the mountain, the river would be lost. Without the river, the mountain would be lifeless. One does not overpower the other; together, they shape the landscape.

A truly strong man honors and holds space for the feminine. He is not afraid of her power—he embraces it, knowing that her fullest expression brings expansion, creativity, and vitality into his life. He does not suppress her or keep her small to feel in control. Instead, he stands firm, offering the security and presence she needs to unleash her full potential.

Likewise, a strong woman encourages her partner to step fully into his masculine energy. She does not undermine, challenge, or compete with his natural leadership, but instead inspires it by trusting him, respecting his presence, and allowing him to lead in his own way. This mutual encouragement fuels the relationship, creating an unstoppable force that expands, grows, and thrives.

But here’s where things often go wrong: imbalances in dominant energy.

For example, if a woman spends her entire day in hustle mode—dominating tasks, making strategic decisions, and leading in business—she is operating entirely in her masculine energy. By the time she gets home, she’s still in that mode. If her partner is also in his masculine, there’s no polarity left—only competition or neutrality. The result? Zero magic in the bedroom. The spark fades, the attraction dulls, and the relationship loses its charge because both partners are stuck in the same energetic state.

This is also why understanding polarity in intimacy is critical. The masculine needs to realize that a feminine woman is not goal-driven in the same way he is. For her, intimacy is not just about the destination—it’s about the journey. She desires connection, sensuality, and presence as much—if not more—than the climax.

And for the feminine, it’s important to understand that intimacy for the masculine is often deeply tied to pursuit, achievement, and direction. The masculine is goal-driven by nature, and this extends into the bedroom—not just in the physical sense, but in his desire to satisfy, provide, and be received. He finds fulfillment in leading the experience, evoking a response from his partner, and feeling her surrender into trust and pleasure.

This is the dance of polarity—a cycle of giving and receiving, leading and flowing, structure and expansion. When both partners embrace their natural essence—without resistance, without competition—the relationship doesn’t just function, it erupts with passion, depth, and an unstoppable magnetic force.

Final Wrap-Up! The Best Leaders Have Both

The most powerful people—whether in business, relationships, or life—are those who master both masculine and feminine energy and know when to call upon each. True mastery isn’t about choosing one energy over the other—it’s about understanding both, embodying both, and knowing exactly when to shift between them. That’s what creates extraordinary leadership, deep relationships, and a truly magnetic presence.

If you want us to dive more into this topic, let us know! Maybe we’ll write a whole book about it 🤔

Life Updates:

• FHL was an absolute whirlwind! We went to so many fun events… two birthday parties, a black tie event, and an absolutely insanely fun evening with some friends at a Persian restaurant… just to name a few!

• We also hosted our final session of Magnetic. We brought our people to Ricci’s Room (a secret room in the back of Maceoo) where Molly Rose met up with us and took some amazing headshots of everyone all dressed up and looking absolutely magnetic!

• We took photos and met up with most of our I Do Epic people (all those who were there). We love our family!

• Bart hosted a roundtable one night (as mentioned previously) but he also took to the big stage and spoke in front of 5,000 people! He talked about how to jump the timeline from who you are right now to who you want to become. He absolutely crushed it and Sunny could not be more proud!

• We celebrated our 30 year anniversary the night we flew into Vegas! 30 YEARS! What the heck?! How did that even happen?

• We have spent a little time with our grandbaby, Lyla, this week - she is already almost sitting up by herself and is definitely into grabbing things and putting them in her mouth. She just turned four months old a few days ago…

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